Enlightenment is a destructive process it has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth
"Do not think that enlightenment is going to make you special, it’s not. If you feel special in any way, then enlightenment has not occurred... Enlightenment is very ordinary; it is nothing special. Rather than making you more special, it is going to make you less special. It plants you right in the center of a wonderful humility and innocence. Everyone else may or may not call you enlightened, but when you are enlightened the whole notion of enlightenment and someone who is enlightened is a big joke. I use the word enlightenment all the time; not to point you toward it but to point you beyond it. Do not get stuck in enlightenment."